Not Just A Homebody.

Hello everyone! :)

I've been tweaking with my blog a bit and changing a few things. And I didn't just change the title, I'm also going to start changing my writing style too. I chose the title "The Luxurious Life of Benjamin Tomas" because that's the only way I can describe my life right now. When you think of the word "luxurious" I'm sure images of money, cars and diamonds pop into your head. But the material things of this earth cannot pamper me. It is the people who touch my life and vice versa that put me in the lap of luxury. It is the love and support I receive from all these different sources that spoil me. Life will not always be glamorous, but it is worth more than all the money in the world. I'm so excited about this new phase of my life that I've entered and I can't wait to take all of you along with me :) It is because of all of YOU and your views that remind me why I do this and motivate me to keep doing it. From the top, middle and bottom of my heart, THANK YOU!

I'm currently working on a new blog to kick off this new chapter. It's taking me a while to write because 1. I come to terms with a few things and finally put them behind me and 2. I'm just a perfectionist who wants to make sure the tone of voice of the blog is being received as it is intended. Hard to believe that even a blog needs to take care of it's voice too, huh? Well, that's just a quick update of what's going on and in the works. Stay tuned for my next blog, which, I want to get posted sometime this weekend if not, Monday at the latest. I promise I won't take too long!

<3 :)

-B.

Let's Talk About Sex.

Madonna once said: “its human nature.” It’s completely natural and shouldn’t be censored. I’m talking about sex. Not exactly a taboo subject anymore. People everywhere are becoming more expressive and open with sex and with their own sexual desires more and more everyday: S and M, role playing, kama sutra, anal sex, oral sex, threesomes, foursomes, orgy’s, and fetishes are not just for people who love shoes anymore. There are a bunch of different positions and techniques out there nowadays to satisfy everyone. So how did I get to thinking about this subject?

          Last night my good friend Lauren Whitmore dropped by my house for a visit. She was in a very interesting phase in her life right now. After ending her relationship of a few years, Lauren cut her loses and started fresh with men already flocking to her like moths to a flame. I loved hearing her talk about the men she was dating. A huge grin would find its way onto her face and her eyes would light up with excitement as she went into detail of how attentive they were and how special they made her feel. It all sounded so glamorous and I ate it up with a fork and spoon every time. So after regaling us with how smoothly things were moving with one of the gentlemen she was currently seeing, naturally, the conversation turned to sex. 

          It started out innocently enough with Lauren, my two roommates and I taking a moment and listing all the people we had slept with. After doing that, we decided to grade them based on their overall performance. Lauren and my roommate Cash put a little more thought into it by giving out “B+’s” and “C-‘s” while I just stuck with a simple “A”, “B”, “F” grading system. But leave it up to Lauren to take it a step further by going into detail about the men themselves and why she slept with them. Using descriptive words like, “packing” to describe size and “courtesy fuck” only kept us laughing the whole night.

Here we were a bunch of twenty-something’s sitting around discussing, comparing and reminiscing in the memories of the decadent pleasure that is sex.

There are a couple of things that I believe in when it comes to sex: soft kisses on the neck, wearing cute underwear, dirty talk and most importantly, condoms. But those are just some of my own personal beliefs. Sex is so free form that it can be whatever you make it. It’s an expression of the body and nothing anyone should be ashamed of. So whether you’re packing heat, playing for the other team or sampling all the different flavors out there just embrace your sensuality and don’t worry about where your journey will take you, just enjoy the ride.

Xoxo.

B.